Realities on the front line: how a soldier survives a divorce and the betrayal of his beloved
War is not only a struggle on the battlefield, but also a real test for families, especially for our defenders. Separation from one's wife and children becomes much more important and difficult for military personnel because of the threat posed by military conflict. They leave their relatives, hoping for a quick return, but the uncertainty of the future always weighs heavily on their souls.
In the harsh reality of war, when the country needs protection, the role of the family and the stability of relationships becomes especially important. Family support, warmth and understanding from relatives allow military personnel to focus on fulfilling their duties. This gives strength and inspiration to overcome difficulties. Sometimes a simple call or letter from home can lift your spirits and energize you for new achievements.
The stability of the relationship with one’s wife and children significantly affects the psychological state of military personnel. Knowing that a loving family awaits them at home helps them maintain emotional stability during the harsh conditions of military service. But this is not always the case.
IA “FAKT” had the opportunity to share with you the story of a true hero, a military man who has served his country for a long time, despite trials in his personal life. Our defender named Oleg wished not to give his last name, which is quite understandable. But he was able to give us an interview while on vacation and tell the painful story of his marriage.
“When I found out that my wife had left me during the service, just because of a message in the Action, it was a real blow… Much more painful than the bullet wounds. It is a huge disappointment and pain. But when I further learned, that she betrayed me, it became almost unreal to experience. She betrayed me, who seemed to love me, she gave me such a deep wound that still hasn’t healed. The feeling of betrayal, emptiness, insults and helplessness overwhelmed me.
Such a disgusting loss of a person who was the universe for me became a real hopelessness. Every moment of such disappointment was recalled in my thoughts, preventing me from concentrating on my duties as a soldier. It was then that I thought I had lost everything. Every day was a struggle with my thoughts and emotions of disappointment that followed me at every step. The memories of the past, when we planned the future together, became a burden that was constantly draining. It is not for nothing that men are thought to be unemotional. This is far from the case,” – says Oleg.
However, despite everything, he was able to overcome a great loss and continues to protect us at “zero”.
“I will continue to serve my country with all my strength and dedication. I must remain strong for my children and for my comrades on the front lines. They are also my family. Now my goal is to focus only on my service and stay alive despite everything difficulties that await me. Thanks to our volunteers and brothers, even in the darkest time, I found the strength to continue on my path. And although the wounds of betrayal may not heal completely for years, I believe that every new day is an opportunity to find again myself and the light in this darkness”, – added our defender.
Oleg’s story is an important reminder that true heroes exist not only on the battlefield, but also in real life, where they continue their service despite all the challenges.
IA “FACT” also spoke with psychologist Anna Bezhenska, who had experience working with the military and gave some practical advice to those military personnel who face difficulties in relationships due to separation and betrayal of relatives.
“In this difficult situation, our soldiers need, first of all, to calm down, although I understand that it is not easy at all. It is important to focus on increasing your own self-esteem and reducing the feeling of guilt, not digging into yourself and not looking for an answer as to why this happened. That’s it, turn the page and move on!
It is also extremely important to seek support from other people, to communicate more with friends and colleagues. In addition, it is important to learn to accept yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect in this life, and everyone has the right to make mistakes. After overcoming the emotional pain, it is necessary to adapt to the changes that have occurred. But the main thing is that you have to learn to live in a new way, the way you want, but taking into account the experience of previous relationships. One should fill life with new emotions and acquaintances, restore faith in oneself and the ability to achieve success.”
Our defenders deserve a happy life, despite the hardships they are currently experiencing. In these difficult times, they definitely need the constant support of psychologists, because they will help in a timely and professional manner to strengthen their psychological state and survive all troubles.
